Going through a divorce is like running through hell wearing gasoline pants. There’s no way not to get hurt in the process. Not only did you lose a partner, but if you have children with your former spouse, that makes the split all the more difficult. And it’s a common issue. Nearly half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. So, the bad news is that you aren’t in elite company, but the good news is you’re not alone!
It’s no secret that divorce is one of the most stressful events one will ever endure in life, but many people still underestimate the mental effects divorce can have. Some people develop serious mental health issues, such as anxiety and depression, as a result of their marriage heading for Splitsville. It’s hard not to get down when your life’s foundation has seemingly been crushed, but there is life after divorce. Continue reading to get some tips to help you get your confidence back.
Realize that your divorce isn’t a failure.
It’s easy to buy into the myth of the “failed marriage.” It sounds like something that makes sense, even to brilliant people, but it’s not grounded in reality. One of the things that affect a divorcee’s mental health is the belief that they failed at marriage or have a failed marriage because they went through a divorce. However, that notion is false at its core. If anything, getting a divorce can be seen as a triumph if you’re getting out of a bad situation.
People often speak about how couples stuck it out in marriage back in the good old days, but how good were those days? If those days were so great, then there wouldn’t be a burgeoning #MeToo movement. Marriages survived longer decades ago largely because women didn’t have the moral support or career opportunities they have now. In other words, society perpetuated a system where women needed men, and therefore, they often stayed in hurtful relationships.
Whether you’re a man, woman, or non-binary, leaving the false security of a bad relationship for the unknown isn’t a failure, and you shouldn’t see it as such. It takes courage to start over and leave your spouse, so instead of beating yourself up over a false sense of failure, celebrate your courage.
Get professional help if you need it.
Did you know that clinical depression is a medical condition as much as a mindstate? As mentioned before, the stress of divorce has often lead to depression in many cases, and in severe cases, even suicide. It’s natural to feel depressed after going through a divorce, but if your depression gets to a point where you have thoughts of self-harm or suicide, it’s important to seek help.
If you’re apprehensive about seeing a therapist, then reach out to a family member or your best friend, but don’t let those feelings go unchecked. If talking to your family members and friends doesn’t work, you should take that next brave step and speak with a mental health professional. Look into support groups, guided by a counselor, where other people going through a split with their ex-spouse are also working things out. Coping with divorce is difficult, but with therapy and the help of your loved ones, you’ll get your joy and your life back.
Get a new look.
When you look good, you feel good. There are few feelings as confidence-boosting as walking into a room and knowing you’re one of the main attractions and knowing it’s just the side effects of being sexy.
Everyone has some type of physical flaw, but if you feel like yours are glaring and make you insecure, you should consider doing something about it. If you want to get your confidence back, then you need to do away with your insecurities or do away with whatever’s causing your insecurities.
If one of the things you’re insecure about is aging, then you should consider botox treatments. Botox is effective at combating wrinkles and is even good for treating joint pain. Some people even get Botox treatments for chronic migraines. In other words, Botox is an excellent way to turn back the clock by filling wrinkles, lubricating joints, and getting rid of migraines or headaches.
Buy a new car or home.
Sometimes, it can be hard to let go of someone even after you’ve gone through the divorce process. One of the reasons it can be so hard to let go of someone is the memories you share. Depending on how long you were married, the majority of your most valuable possessions probably come from that marriage. Maybe it’s time to get rid of those constant reminders.
One way to get that “old marriage” feeling away from you is to buy a new home and car. If you didn’t lose the home and cars from your marriage in the divorce process, you should put them on the market and start over new. Moving into a new place and buying a new car isn’t solely about getting rid of the old and bringing in the new. It’s also about accomplishing something major, by yourself, after your divorce.
If you need a confidence booster to let you know that you can make it on your own, buying yourself a new home or car is an excellent way to get a fresh start and a confidence boost.
Buy yourself something sexy.
Ladies, you deserve to look in the mirror and see dessert. If your divorce has you down in the dumps, then it’s time to go out and buy yourself something sexy. Even if nobody’s going to see it except for you, just putting on some sexy lingerie and sitting at home with a glass of wine and a book is one of the highest forms of self-care.
Once your divorce settles and you move into a new place, the first thing you should do is fill your top drawer with luxury pajamas and lingerie that make you feel like a natural woman. Chase away negative emotions by freeing your sexy side with some enticing sleepwear.
Get out and see the world, or at least North America.
After going through a tough divorce process, one of the best medications is travel. If you’ve got a furry friend in your life, then it’s time to get on the internet and see where to go on vacation with your dog. You may not want to take your pup to New York with so much excitement and the expensive hotels, but the Grand Canyon or Yellowstone Park would make perfect destinations.
Most US National Parks and trails are dog-friendly, but it’s still best to check specific trails before you hit the road. Even though most airlines let you bring a pup (or most small dogs) on board, you should drive to get the full road trip experience of cruising U.S. highways with your furry friend’s head sticking out of the passenger’s side window. What could be more relaxing?
If you decide to take your pooch on a road trip across the United States, you need to plan your rest stops ahead of time. Planning includes looking for hotels that allow dogs and finding dog parks along the way so your pooch can get out and stretch his legs. Taking a road trip with your pooch is not only a great way to see North America, but once you and your best friend hit the road, there’ll be nothing but good vibes.
